Tell me why you mad, bruh?!?

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Hello?

Is this thing on?

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Ok, good.  Thank you for joining me today.  I know it's been a few days but I've been brewing on this rant for a while and finally....let the records show:

WHO GIVES A FLYING FUCK about Chris & Rihanna getting back together (allegedly, right)?

First of all, as I stated before about celebrities....these are just people, who's career (you know,  a job...like work....that verb that pays bills, put food on the table and clothes on our backs)....but they eat, sleep, shit...just like you and me.  But again, because they are "celebrities" and because obviously we have nothing better to do with our own lives but be concerned with what's going on in theirs....we keep employed stalkers, that we call "paparazzi" to hide in bushes, zip-line from tree to tree, emerge out of toilets - just to catch what's hot and happening.

Secondly, are you surprised?  I mean, really?  

There is NO reason why ANYbody should hate on Chris if Rihanna is over it.  *shrug*  I have been the witness to many, many "domestic violence" events to have learned that no matter how many interventions family and/or friends provide....they ALWAYS go back.  Always.  It may take a few beat downs before the "victim" takes all that they can take but nonetheless....they go back.  As you may have noticed, I'm not saying "she"....because men can be abused as well. Unfortunately gender stereotypes say that if a man lets a woman hit on him....he's a punk but if a man hits on a woman....she's a victim.  And by "man law".....you can't be a punk! Heavens forbid letting the "weaker" sex to be taxin' that ass....MAN UP!  So that means, no crying, no telling, no leaving....deal with it.  Sooooo, with that being said, we get men who chop up their wives.  What??? You can't expect a person to just bottle up years and years of abuse and expect them not to snap. One way or another....it'll come out.  You can't make somebody leave a bad situation...no matter how much you appeal to their intellect or reason with good sense....just like drugs and all other bad things that "take hold"...it's up to the individual to let go.  

It's been what? 3 years since their fight?  GTFOH! Folks gettin' smacked down on a daily and do we see those headlining our newspapers?? We get a month to bring light to domestic violence, help and prevention.  ABUSE happens daily!  When are they gonna start cracking down more vehemently on these "cam phone" fights that have taken over the internet?  Every single one that's uploaded, everybody involved should suffer some consequence....every last one. Don't just go after the ones that get the most hits (pardon the pun). 

Bottomline is this....leave Chris Brown alone.  He took the punishment handed to him for his involvement....he won a Grammy and all is fair in the world.  

If you disagree with and have put your foot down about Chris Brown....don't listen to his music, don't watch him on tv, don't go getting all in a tizzy about his daily activity because people still enjoy his talents and he's just trying to make a living at it.  But the more you rant about how much of a monster he is....the paparazzi's gonna keep feeding you his business....keeping him in the news....keeping him relevant. Duh?!
Why y'all not mad at Ri Ri??  Y'all came to her rescue and she's the one that went back! hahahaha....Look how happy she is.....got her boo back! hahahahaha....

I like Chris Brown...and I enjoy his music. ALOT.  But I don't see what made him and Rihanna any different than other celebrities that were reported to have been in physical altercations with their significant others.  *shrug*  

I don't think any man should ever have to hit a woman....we are just built that men are (well, generally) physically stronger than women.  So, a dude could restrain a female, without serving a two piece.  HOWEVER.....women need to understand...."do unto others as you would have things done unto you"! 

So for anybody, that may be in a domestic violence situation or knows someone who is....GET HELP! (link to resources...click it!)

1. One in four women (25%) has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime.
2. Roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.

Oh!  Chris and Ri-Ri wanted you guys to know what they think about what you all have to say

And......you can quote me if you like!

 

Shameful is....what shameful does....

Most of us, are guilty of making and laughing at the jokes we heard about Whitney.  I'll admit....I laughed. Most of us tuned in week after week for our dose of humor from their reality show, "Being Bobby Brown".  You just never knew what antics and stunts the Brown family would pull.  You just never knew but you knew they would!  And each week, they never let us down.  Yelling and screaming at each other.  Making spectacles in public...odd behaviors and whatever else they could come up with, they didn't hold back.  Some of you may think I'm being insensitive right now, that I'm speaking so freely about "the train wreck" we tuned in to witness week after week.  Maybe I watched because Bobby reminded me so much of my own brother and his erratic, comical behavior....I don't know *shrug*....but I watched.   But here is where I get up on my soapbox....

SOMEBODY'S MOTHER has died!!
SOMEBODY'S CHILD has died!!
SOMEBODY'S SISTER has died!!
SOMEBODY'S AUNT has died!!
SOMBODY'S COUSIN has died!!
SOMEBODY'S BEST FRIEND has died!!

And people are still tuning in for the train wreck!  So....*MIDDLE FINGER in ABUNDANCE* for you all!!

It was almost immediate that EVERYBODY assumed it was drug related. *smh*  DESPITE her troubles, did she not deserve the respect and consideration that maybe it had NOTHING to do with drugs? No??  Are we so insenstive and so ALL KNOWING, that we....WE....this selfish, celebrity news hungry, reality show watching, insecure, low self esteemed ass society can't even give her the benefit of doubt....no?  It goes SO far passed what killed her....because at the end of the day.....she's gone.

Excuse me...Yeah I said it!  SELFISH, INSECURE, LOW SELF ESTEEM SOCIETY!!  We care SO much about the drama, who's wearing what...who sleeping with whom....who's strung out....who's dishing the best gossip.  We build people up to tear them down. Maybe if we spent more time caring about just people in general, caring about ourselves and our OWN front lawns...maybe these celebrities could live somewhat of normal lives and not lean so much on drugs to charge them up so they can give US what we need....and drugs to take them down so they can get what they need.....sleep, peace and quiet or an escape.

My son called me to tell me when the news broke.  I thought, again..."Here we go with the jokes".  I told him "It's not funny".  And I scolded him for telling "this horrible joke".  He got a little defensive because he couldn't connect to why it wasn't funny....and as he said "it ain't like you knew her".  Yeah, I expect this from a kid, who didn't grow up listening to her music.  Who didn't get a chance to "know" Whitney Houston before things got bad.  So all he knew was the "sick" Whitney...and the jokes that surrounded her.  Yeah, I expect that from a kid but this was a common sentiment that I saw when I logged on to Facebook and read comments posted by people under the multitude of articles and her videos on youtube.  It seems as though, there is this belief that a person (or people) can't be affected by the death of a celebrity.

Well, why not? ?

Because she didn't know you all, individually by name?  Because she didn't know your favorite colors?  Well, she didn't become a celebrity alone!  You made her!  You loved her voice....you listened to her music over the years....you cared enough to tune in to watch her when she performed on television. You welcomed her with open arms when Clive Davis presented her to you!  You EVEN cared enough about her that you were hungry for the latest gossip concerning her addictions. You craved the photos of her disheveled and wildin' out.  You cared enough to talk about her, make jokes about her, to follow her EVERY move. You loved her so much, you're still blaming Bobby for her downfall! YOU employ the paparizzi! Yet, you want to tell people to get over it., "I'm not surprised" replies and you don't see why others are sharing her videos...or linking articles about the developing story of all the "what happened" theories.  Is that what we do, when they no longer "fit" the mold, we disassociate ourselves and throw them to the wolves?  Shame on you.

As a fan, it broke my heart to watch her decline and even more to hear of her death.  And you're right, like I said, I did laugh at jokes.  Hell, my father was a drug addict.  I laughed and joked at his ass too!! But how  I THANK GOD - even to this day, for the sobriety that he mastered.  When he "came back to life", NONE of the things that he did during his drugged up days mattered to me.  All that mattered is that I had my daddy back!  So when he passed away, nothing of his past haunted his memory.  He was remembered for the person that he was.  WHY is that so hard for people to do for Whitney? I wanted soberity for Whitney. I want the same for everybody with addictions.   Whenever there was good press of her "cleaning up", yes...I shared those moments too!  It would make me happy to see her trying.  When she finally became pregnant with Bobbi Kristina...who wasn't happy for her?  I know I was.  "I'm Every Woman" ???  Everybody loved the glowing face, the swollen belly....the healthy Whitney.  So now I ask, did you really love her?

This isn't just about WHITNEY HOUSTON.  This is about Michael Jackson, Etta James, Amy Winehouse, Marvin Gaye, Heavy D and all the other celebrities that have sacrificed their privacy and just basic human needs for our entertainment. No, I may NOT  know this family personally but they're human and they shared their life with me.  I pray for this family....this family of HUMAN BEINGS with REAL feelings, REAL faults, REAL triumphs, REAL happiness and REAL sadness.  I pray for the child that lost her mother and the mother that lost her child.

Rest in Peace, Whitney.....

And you can definitely quote me....if you like!

Just Letting it Flow.....

Whhhhhhaaassssuuuuppp!!!

I'm back.  You guys, I'm really trying to kick my ass into gear cuz I'm getting older and even tho' I am THANKFUL....THANKFUL for my job, I'm bored out of my mind! There are a million and 8 things I'd rather be doing than being at work or at least....this work.  Alas, it is WHAT it is....and while I'm here................Imma just keep playing online and blogging, hoping I don't get caught....ooops! hold on a minute.....

*minimizing screen*

Ok....I'm back.  (<---- that's me living on the edge! The danger turns me on! hahahahaha!)


What???  I get my work done.  I do....it just doesn't take a brain surgeon or all day to do the work I do.  *shrug*  What I do, does matter to somebody....but right now....for me.....the brighter side of this situation is that I've learned how to speed type and work this keyboard out!  hahahahahaha....hey, I'm always looking for the silver lining....

So yesterday, I was talking to my mom about this.....just venting about how I never thought I'd be....here.  I thought I'd be doing something else.  I want to do something else....and then she asked me "what do you want to do"?  I wish I could write.  That's what I want to do.  I want my words and ideas to reach hundreds, thousands...millions of people.  That's what I do...That's what I like. I wanna be "somebody".  I wanna be "important"!

I'll be glad when I can start writing again....when I'm at home!  I won't have to sneak around, like I'm hiding my lover, hoping not to get caught by "THE MAN".  hahahaha!

I can just be free and let the words, thoughts and images flow....just let it flow....

Speaking of flow....

Did y'all see the pictures of Christina Aguilera at Etta James' funeral?

No bueno.

Now, this is where I climb up on my soapbox.  I couldn't have been more disgusted with what the media (reporters, photogs, news channels) felt was newsworthy for the day.

*grabbing my step stool*

First of all, that was suppose to be ALL ABOUT ETTA! I'm a bit pissed she didn't get the fanfare/farewell, I think....she deserved!

Secondly, Christina sang THEE hell out of "At Last"!  Y'all can say whatever y'all wanna say....but that girl's got pipes! And for a moment I did think...."she over singing this song"....but she can sing.....let's talk about that!

Thirdly,.......what?......oh...I haven't told y'all what I'm bitchin' about, huh?  Well, it appears that Christina had a female accident while she was on stage.  Aunt Flow was running right on down her legs.  Yeah, looked like a massacre....but hey....as a female....the shit happens to the best of us!  I would have been mortified....which I know she was.....but damn!  Do we need news articles about it???  In response, to all the buzz...her people said it was spray on tanner that was streaking down....but look at my face....--->

*get oddah here*

It just REALLY grinds my gears that if it's not murder, some world destruction, Beyonce's baby or now....a menstrual mishap it ain't news.  I'm glad I have the freedom of expression....otherwise I wouldn't be able to do this right now....but really??  I wanna hear about her period?  I've got my own to keep up with....who gives a fat rat's ass that she didn't get the ones with wings!

OMG! hahahahahaha! Sorry, Chris....but "They're all gonna laugh at you! They're all gonna laugh at you!"  is so loud in my head right now.

Ok ok....*focus*..... what I'm saying is.....why do we care? Isn't this an election year? Shouldn't we be concerned about making an informed decision with our Presidential vote? Shouldn't we be concerned with the good news of the day....or what changes can we make or help to make in our communities? Maybe it's just me....maybe I'm just fed up for myself....cuz obviously it's an audience for this shit....otherwise, it wouldn't be news, right?

Oh!!! Shut the hell up....damn!

Hey yall!

Ok....so....hi.

I'm really trying to get back into my blogs, writing and whatever.....gotta exercise my skill to keep it fresh, so it'll be easy to get that novel done one day. You know what they say, "Use it or lose it". Yeah, so I've got that sweet jewelry blog doing it's thing over there - with one amazing follower....just like this one...AND! It's not the same person, ha!....HELL YEAH! That's what's up....a lil' bit.

I didn't want to have all these blogs going on but I can't vent over there or talk about just random thoughts so....here I is! So listen....

Well, so.....today....I needed to get some shit off my chest. I have been watching and listening....and everything....and finally, I'm just pretty much over it. I don't know what else to do or who I can talk to about it....but I have officially taken all I can take and I can't takes NO MO!

I'm SICK AND TIRED OF NATURAL HAIR videos, blogs, journeys, length checks....and all things associated with rocking natural hair! *exhale* These heifahs jumping in showers fully dressed just to wet their hair to show "us" how long their hair has grown in 10 days....
"Look what I look like with 2 strand twists"...."look at my 2 strand twist out"! Blah! Blah! Blah!

So what....really....like....so frikkin' what, dude! Who gives a shit? And honestly....after a couple of days and depending on how nappy your hair is....2 strands or 4.....it all looks the same. Yeah....it really does.

There, I said it....you got a problem?

I mean, don't get me wrong. I was excited to go natural but the shit scared the daylights out of me if I could be so honest. I hadn't seen my "natural hair" since 3rd grade and now....what....8 years in...maybe a little bit longer....I'm liberated from scalp burns, expensive ass weaves and bad hair days.....so I get it....it's a wonderful feeling. And yes, I do encourage my friends that want to do the natural thing....I say, "Girl, go for it"! I'm just done with the whole nappy headed "intellectualization" (what? You've never heard that word before?) ! I've had long hair, short hair, straight hair, weaved hair, braided hair, natural hair, afro hair, permed hair....I've done it all. It's not that serious....

I've watched these videos and yes....I've learned some homemade concoctions and some hairstyles that I think are fly....but for the most part....WHATS THE BIG DEAL? A lot of them talk like they have a doctorate in this shit....and they don't. Why???? ITS JUST FUCKING HAIR!!! Geesh! I can't tell you how many videos I've seen where they've mispronounced words trying to sound all official...hahahaha....or they're trying to give reviews or whatever and they just make no sense; just sitting there, rambling about nothing.....oh! and then you've got the clit suckahs that stay riding the bra strap of the more popular natural "queens"....hahahaha *throwin' a shoe* get oddah here!! hahaha!

But what I've noticed.....they all have one goal...."look how long my hair is" *smh*

Are we still stuck on that??? I thought we stopped putting bath towels on our heads pretending to have long cascading hair like when we were 5 years old. No? We still aspire for long flowing hair? Okay, so you're not perming your hair, taking better care of it and you've let it grow....so what....hair grows even after your dead, so......now what? I think somewhere...inside...amongst all the pomades and jojoba oils some of y'all still....STILL define beauty to a European standard. WHO ever said hair had to be long to be beautiful?

I think when I really got fed up with this whole thing....I watched a video of a "guru"....now, I've seen her videos before....and her hair has grown A LOT since the first time I've seen her...beautiful healthy hair....but she is annoying as fuck! There's nothing I want to learn from her because she's ANNOYING....so sue me. *shrug* But I landed back up on her youtube....and I noticed how "refined" she had become.....hahahaha and I tried hard to find a video of her way back when....found one....and booooyyy....hear me when I tell you.....YouTube is breeding Kardashians! (that would imply creating "celebrities" out of popularity, not talent). Then! This is what sent me into a frenzy... as a suggested video somebody did a video why this trick was better than "us". HAHAHAHAHA! What?? *throwing my other shoe* Get oddah here!

ooohhhh boy....and there is so much drama with these nappy headed hoes...it's too much. I just sit back and watch them throw stones at each other. Oh so what! Cat fights are highly entertaining! But you know - it just further makes me question will African American people....more specifically - AfAm. women always find a reason to hate each other? Will we always measure ourselves to others? When do we just say..."hey, she's fly...I like her style" without downing ourselves or picking sides? If she's rocking a good weave and lathering no lye relaxer all over her body like lotion....and she looks good....why can't she be just as good as or as beautiful as Miss Olive Oil and flax seeds?

Look, I'm trying not to be a hypocrite about this whole subject....cuz there are some other issues I have with this whole natural vs. chemicals that I need to discuss later. I mean, at one point I thought long hair made you prettier too (hey, I had serious esteem issues when I was growing up)....and before I went natural, a bad hair day sent me spiraling down into the bowels of hell! However, truth be told, no matter what length your hair is....no matter what texture it is....if you're fucked up on the inside....I really don't care how it looks on the outside and up top.

So get over it!

To think, all this fuss....and it's ONLY HAIR.

*breathe*

Oh, by the way.....Quote Me If You Like....

*S/N....just in case you're wondering.....I have locs....nearly to my waist. When wet!* hahahahahaha!
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